I said in my last post that I’m not gonna change my habits for 3 months, but I’m changing it to this:
Fear.
Work.
Gym.
Diet.
Replacing yoga and walk with gym because I realized stress wasn’t caused by gym but by not taking social habit seriously by not taking any action and falling into the fallacy of “social circle” and procrastinating instead of proactively making plans and taking action to face my social fears. Also, yes, gym sessions were kinda long and tiring with the PE so gonna do it on my own and not over-train.
I also saw in my habits journal local note on my iPhone, I had written this during my previous change:
Too much changing too fast. This works. And if it doesn’t work, the most likely culprit probably is gonna be that you’re not taking action on “social”.
Spot on!
There are only two reasons I might fail that I can think of right now:
I go back to social circle/maintenance/norms/skills/etc. Instead of social fear.
I don’t reduce time to plan and reduce time to action. I keep procrastinating.
To combat 1, I have renamed the habit from “social” to “fear”.
And for 2, I have obliterated any plans or strategies, I just plan for the immediate today or tomorrow, and make concrete plans and considering all variables and don’t procrastinate and put off planning and stick to fear, nothing else.
I have also considered now, that it is very important to set aside some time every day to quickly plan or recuperate on the fear tasks, because unlike a gym, this is very fluid and needs constant upkeep and deliberate thought. People are not equipment, and over the last week I fucked up a lot because I just did not make any plans at all, because I thought I was just planning and not taking action. But, some planning is required, to set a goal or a target for every next day.
So, the basic plan is to keep a list of progressively overloaded implementation intention social fear tasks that target and stimulate my social fear muscle and reach my rep x rep max for those muscles every day.
So I’m gonna stick with this config for 3 months starting from tomorrow, till: May 10th, 2024.
Edit: I kinda fucked up by again focusing on non-fear areas. I am realigning myself now again after 1.5 month (halfway through, sad) but anyway, now I’m gonna solely focus on doing social fear tasks every day until: 25th June 2024.